Again with the idea: what you don’t know can’t hurt you? This seems to be proving itself wrong time and again for those interested in personal growth. I remember my teacher explaining to us that three important things were preventing us from succeeding in our personal and spiritual growth: our karma, our ignorance, and our fear.
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Stories Morph Over Time

Can we re-write a piece of our history?  What could the benefit of doing so be?

Exercises:

  1. Can you take one of the problematic stories from your life and change it in some significant way so that it brings you to a different outcome?
  2. Tell someone a story from your life when you were inspired by someone you thought of as a role model.  Where did the power of their inspiration actually come from?

 

Re-framing is About Perspective

How we choose to look at things is subjective.  We don’t know the full extent of a story, usually, until well after it has taken place.  That’s where wisdom comes from.

Exercise:

How could you re-frame a story from your life to arrive at a different understanding of whether it was “good” or “bad?”

Problem Stories

Non-accountability stories excuse people from responsibility for their actions.  When we tell these stories, we disempower ourselves.  Reflecting honestly on these stories from your life and re-telling the story in an accountable way can help you move forward and create new and different outcomes.

Exercises:

Write down your thoughts about these questions, or talk with someone you trust about them.

  1. Identify a time when you made a bad decision, felt invalidated, or tried something but did not succeed.
  2. What different path could you take that is a significant departure from a story you tell about yourself?

 

What’s the Difference Between Story and Narrative?

It’s simple, but important to know this.  And when we start assessing our life stories based on whether they are stories or narratives, we get a much better understanding of the power they have.

Exercise:

As you think about an important story from your life, how could you change one element of that story to make it less about blame and more about validation?

How You Experience a Story Matters

Generally speaking, people have a favorite sensory channel.  We call this your representational system.

Understanding your representational system will help you become empowered to create changes to your life story so that you can get more out of it.