THE 3 P’s: Patience, Persistence, and Presence to accomplish your goals
A key to being successful in ANY endeavor requires patience, persistence, and presence
“Patience is, “the quality of being patient, as the bearing of provocation, annoyance, misfortune, or pain, without complaint, loss of temper, irritation, or the like.” (Dictionary.com) That means even when things don’t go your way, or you experience a setback, have a bad day, or are feeling down you hang in there and remain consistent. Remember the saying “this to shall pass”.
It is normal to have times when we are not feeling our best or operating at our highest potential, it is part of life! However how you chose to deal with it is in your control. I invite you to think that how we respond to any situation is always a choice, although we are often not in control of external situations and circumstances, we are always choosing our response. Even if our response seems to be the same or automatic it is always a choice.
Persistence is, “persisting, especially when challenged or faced with opposition, obstacles, discouragement, etc.” (Dictionary.com) That means you persevere, keeping moving forward in the face of obstacles, challenges, and discouragement. What this means is you continue to move forward even if it is taking baby steps toward that goal – you keep moving forward and towards. This is one of the defining traits of ALL people that successfully achieve their goals – no matter what that might be.
Presence is, “being, existing, or occurring at this time or now.” (Dictionary.com) This means you are not staying stuck in the past or lost in future thoughts . You aren’t checked out in a movie, book, playing a video game, working on the computer or any other activity. You are here now in this time and moment. By choosing to strategically be present you are automatically beginning to reprogram yourself to live in the day to day doing your best in that moment to support yourself. Perhaps in that moment it is a preference to make healthier choices, moving your body more, drinking more water or practicing gratitude. Because you are being present to how you are feeling this supports creating awareness around why you make the choices that you do. Being mindfully aware helps you to get in touch with the feelings behind the choices we make. It also allows us time to stop and check in about that choice and decide if it really is a good one for us that supports our goals. It is like pressing the pause button and slowing down just for a moment to mindfully check in with ourselves.
When you are aware in the present moment it is the difference between operating in the dark and having someone turn the lights on. It is very empowering to create the state of being here and now and also results in many benefits. Just slowing down our minds helps us to relax and turn down the noise, when we intentionally choose to relax our minds to the present we also release chemicals that are calming. It is VERY IMPORTANT to remember, awareness does NOT mean judging yourself. It is simply understanding and having curiosity about your thoughts and behavior. To adapt a perspective of thoughts are just information about why you do the things you do. Presence allows you to develop the awareness that will automatically begin to reprogram your mind to an increased sense of wellbeing. When I work with clients I always encourage them to practice the 3’Ps for their success.